Gather/Get Together


Review Your Time Since You Were Last Together


Open God’s Word


Understand & Apply One Thing


Pray For Each Other


Week Four Group Guide

Family. That can mean so many things to so many people. But one thing we all have in common regarding family is…we all have one. Some of us consider it a treasure. Others think it’s a curse.But there’s another thing we probably have in common: We all want something as good – if not betterfor our children. But what does “better” look like? What exactly are we aiming for?During the “Family Matters” message series, the goal is to examine what the Bible has to say about “family” and to get a grip on why that matters.

  • Will we “redefine” family or will we choose to let God “refine” us through our family?
  • Is there a “secret sauce” for improving our family relationships?
  • Can we learn to fight fair?
  • Do we have any control over our family legacy?

This message series is designed to get us to think deeply about just a few basic principles that God says will improve the health and the value of our family. The Life Group Discussion Guide that follows will help you put these principles into action.


Let me take a moment to give you a quick tour and explanation of what you’ll find here. And most importantly, how to make the most of the components. First of all, what I’m challenging you to do as a group is simply:
G = Gather
R = Review the events in each other’s lives
O = Open God’s Word, using the podcast of the message
U = Understand and apply just one (1) truth by putting it into action
P = Pray for each other…for God’s wisdom, strength and courage
When you get to the “O” … listen to the podcast by clicking on the “Podcast” button at the bottom of the page. And you can even access a copy of the outline of the message. Then use the 3 or 4 discussion questions in the sidebar to help everyone in the group to put the “U” into practice! Those are the core ideas and steps of having a healthy and successful Rock Springs Life Group meeting! If you would like to get a running start before the meeting, click on “Introduction” and “Moving Forward”. That’s where you’ll find some ideas to get your mind and your group thinking about the lesson, and to help you carry it through your week. And “Changing Your Mind” is where you’ll find the memory verse for the week. Again, I’m really proud of you for doing this! If you get a moment, let us know that you’re giving it go, tell us about the exciting things that God may be doing in your group, and don’t hesitate to ask for guidance on group questions.  Just email us at

Pastor David

All children—that’s you and me—long for the approval of their parents . . . especially their fathers. It’s a longing that never goes away. It gets buried or transferred to other relationships, but it’s there. And we underestimate its power. Every parent wants to be approved by his or her child—to be a hero, to hear, “when I grow up I want to be just like you.” As that desire grows, so does a parent’s insecurity.

Buried beneath the hurt, disappointment, distance, or silence is a desire to be connected to our children and our fathers. It lasts a lifetime.

1. Talk about a time when you received affirmation from your parent or your child. How did it make you feel?
2. How has your relationship with your father made a relationship with God easier or more dif cult?
3. About who in your family do you say, “I don’t care”? What makes your relationship with that person challenging?
4. What can you do this week to open a door, extend a hand, or lean in the direction of that person? What can this group do to support you?
The goal of reconciliation is a relationship characterized by acceptance, despite past offenses and current differences. Reconciliation keeps you honest emotionally and prevents old dysfunction from invading your new relationships.
You can’t make reconciliation happen, but you can take the first step. It’s your best bet for wholeness and health.
For Christ’s love compels us, because we are convinced that one died for all, and therefore all died. And he died for all, that those who live should no longer live for themselves but for him who died for them and was raised again.
 2 Corinthians 5:14–15