Gather/Get Together


Review Your Time Since You Were Last Together


Open God’s Word


Understand & Apply One Thing


Pray For Each Other


I am so proud of you for taking advantage of this Life Group Discussion Guide! Let me take a moment to give you a quick tour and explanation of what you’ll find here. And most importantly, how to make the most of the components.

First of all, what I’m challenging you to do as a group is simply:
G = Gather
R = Review the events in each other’s lives
O = Open God’s Word, using the podcast of the message
U = Understand and apply just one (1) truth by putting it into action
P = Pray for each other…for God’s wisdom, strength and courage

When you get to the “O” … listen to the podcast by clicking on the “Podcast” button. And you can even access a copy of the outline of the message. Then use the 3 or 4 discussion questions below to help everyone in the group to put the “U” into practice!

Those are the core ideas and steps of having a healthy and successful Rock Springs Life Group meeting!

If you would like to get a running start on the questions before the meeting, click on the link to the right “Suggestions for This Week’s Study”. That’s where you’ll find some ideas and icebreakers to get your mind and your group thinking about the lesson.

Also, if you’re interested in more detailed instructions or would like to sharpen your skill at leading/facilitating your group, click on the links to the right: “Using This Sermon Discussion Guide” and “Preparing To Lead Your Group”

Again, I’m really proud of you for doing this! If you get a moment, let us know that you’re giving it go, tell us about the exciting things that God may be doing in your group, and don’t hesitate to ask for guidance on group questions. Just email us at

Pastor David

Think of someone in your life who exhibits quiet strength. Describe that person to your group.

Discuss the often counter-cultural but decidedly spiritual benefits of gentleness. How is gentleness like Jesus?

Thank God for his living example of gentleness. Pray something like this: Lord, make me like Jesus. Please grow the fruit of gentleness in my life. I can’t do it on my own; I need you to take my heart captive and make me a gentle example of your Son.

Talk It Over is a tool to aid you in meeting the needs of your group. We’ve designed it so it can be completed easily within 30-45 minutes. As the discussion leader, you should preview and evaluate the questions based on the needs of your group. Decide in advance what is most important to focus on, should time not allow for the entire lesson.

Feel free to adapt the format to meet the needs of your group. If your group is mature and wants to dig deeper, consider using the Diving Deeper section or add additional Scripture and ask suitable questions. Remember that this is only a guide.

The questions relating to Bible study methods are helpful to develop Bible literacy and spiritual maturity in our lives. You can help your group be aware of their needs in these areas by using these questions as a regular part of each discussion.

Personal applications are essential for growth and should be included in every discussion. When discussing how they will apply principles, group members may state very general goals such as “I need to spend more time in prayer.” It is important for you to help people make goals that are very specific and commit to specific plans of action by asking, for example, “How are you going to begin?” An example is to get up 25 minutes earlier each morning, spending 15 minutes reading the Bible and 10 minutes in prayer. Encourage each group member to be accountable to the group for personal progress at the next meeting.

Your goal as the leader is to bring the group into a stimulating discussion that helps the members recognize their needs for personal life change. Ultimately you want them to be willing to commit to change with accountability to the group. Accountability helps us to persevere in our commitments and achieve the blessings of success.

Pray for insight as you begin to prepare for leading your group. Ask for God’s wisdom, that the Holy Spirit will be the teacher and that you will be God’s instrument to lead the group to greater understanding and a willingness to commit to becoming more like God. Prayer should be your primary source of personal preparation for leading your group.

Plan where you want to take your group in the next 60-90 days. Is your group strong in some areas and weak in others? How can you challenge the members to live more balanced Christian lives? Consider God’s five purposes for the church: Fellowship, Discipleship, Ministry, Mission and Worship, and make a plan to encourage your group members to growth and commitment in their weak areas.

Ponder your progress after each session and at the end of a series. Reflect on what went well and what didn’t. Re-evaluation is key to your growth as a leader. Consider whether your plan is being effective in moving the group to greater understanding and commitment. How are you doing with leading the discussion: is it stimulating, challenging, and meaningful? Are you able to keep the group on track? Do you need to make some changes?


 “God blesses those who are gentle. The whole earth will belong to them!” Matthew 5:5

Jesus makes quite a promise to those who are gentle—they will inherit the earth! What does it mean to be gentle? Rather than weakness, as many believe, gentleness is defined as strength under control. It defuses conflict. It disarms critics. It is persuasive. It is attractive. It communicates love. It earns respect. It witnesses to unbelievers. It makes me like Jesus. Let’s take a closer look at some of the benefits of gentleness.

Open your group with a prayer. This is only a guide – select the points you want to discuss.

A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Proverbs 15:1 (NIV)

1. When we’re in conflict, what advice does Proverbs 15:1 have for us? Lowering your voice in response to heated words will often have this desired effect. Discuss how this can defuse situations past or present.

2. When we are attacked or criticized, responding with gentleness will disarm our critics. How does this exemplify the definition of gentleness–strength under control?

3. To practice gentleness this week apply this statement, “When someone disagrees with me, be tender without surrender.” In what situations can you anticipate applying this concept during the week?

4. Imagine this scenario: You are serving food in a restaurant and you bring the wrong order to the customer. He is hungry, cranky, and late for an appointment. How would you feel if he treated you harshly? How would you feel if he was kind to you? How can you develop an attitude of gentleness in your own life?

Patience and gentle talk can convince a ruler and overcome any problem. Proverbs 25:15 (CEV)

5. Give an example of a time when you were not gentle in speaking to your boss or a person who had authority over you. What did you learn through that experience?

6. How do you apply God’s love to a situation when you don’t feel loving?

 “A woman of gentle grace will be respected.” Proverbs 11:16 (Msg)

7. Gentleness is a prerequisite to leadership—in any area of life. We follow those we respect. Share examples of leaders that demonstrate this. How can you improve your leadership by exhibiting strength under control?

“Believers should never speak evil of anyone, nor be quarrelsome. Instead they should be gentle and show courtesy to everyone.” Titus 3:2 (GW)

8. Why does Titus direct us, as Christian witnesses, to be gentle and polite to everyone? Consider this statement, “When someone disappoints me, be gentle, not judgmental.” Discuss examples of what this looks like. If this is a personal concern, ask for prayer today.

“You should clothe yourselves instead with the beauty that comes from within, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is so precious to God.” 1 Peter 3:4 (NLT)

1. Whether you’re a man or woman, gentleness makes you attractive to others. Read the story of Ruth and Boaz from Ruth 2:13-14 and point out the gentleness each of them displays.