Gather/Get Together


Review Your Time Since You Were Last Together


Open God’s Word


Understand & Apply One Thing


Pray For Each Other


I am so proud of you for taking advantage of this Life Group Discussion Guide! Let me take a moment to give you a quick tour and explanation of what you’ll find here. And most importantly, how to make the most of the components.First of all, what I’m challenging you to do as a group is simply:G = GatherR = Review the events in each other’s livesO = Open God’s Word, using the podcast of the messageU = Understand and apply just one (1) truth by putting it into actionP = Pray for each other…for God’s wisdom, strength and courageWhen you get to the “O” … listen to the podcast by clicking on the “Podcast” button. And you can even access a copy of the outline of the message. Then use the 3 or 4 discussion questions below to help everyone in the group to put the “U” into practice!Those are the core ideas and steps of having a healthy and successful Rock Springs Life Group meeting!If you would like to get a running start on the questions before the meeting, click on the link to the right “Suggestions for This Week’s Study”. That’s where you’ll find some ideas and icebreakers to get your mind and your group thinking about the lesson.Also, if you’re interested in more detailed instructions or would like to sharpen your skill at leading/facilitating your group, click on the links to the right: “Using This Sermon Discussion Guide” and “Preparing To Lead Your Group”Again, I’m really proud of you for doing this! If you get a moment, let us know that you’re giving it go, tell us about the exciting things that God may be doing in your group, and don’t hesitate to ask for guidance on group questions. Just email us at David

Icebreaker: When you are in conflict, are you a skunk (stink the place up) or a turtle (withdraw to a safe place)?

Goal of this lesson: To learn how to bring peace to relationships in conflict.

Prayer: Jesus, you never ran from a conflict and taught us how to resolve them. You know our every wound, every fear. Please alleviate the fear of resolving conflict. Help us to tap into your Holy Spirit to give us the humility to fix the problem, not establish blame. Give us strength to see where the other person is hurt by focusing on reconciliation in order to breathe new life into our relationships. We need you, Jesus. Help us to trust you more. Amen.

Talk It Over is a tool to aid you in meeting the needs of your group. We’ve designed it so it can be completed easily within 30-45 minutes. As the discussion leader, you should preview and evaluate the questions based on the needs of your group. Decide in advance what is most important to focus on, should time not allow for the entire lesson.

Feel free to adapt the format to meet the needs of your group. If your group is mature and wants to dig deeper, consider using the Diving Deeper section or add additional Scripture and ask suitable questions. Remember that this is only a guide.

The questions relating to Bible study methods are helpful to develop Bible literacy and spiritual maturity in our lives. You can help your group be aware of their needs in these areas by using these questions as a regular part of each discussion.

Personal applications are essential for growth and should be included in every discussion. When discussing how they will apply principles, group members may state very general goals such as “I need to spend more time in prayer.” It is important for you to help people make goals that are very specific and commit to specific plans of action by asking, for example, “How are you going to begin?” An example is to get up 25 minutes earlier each morning, spending 15 minutes reading the Bible and 10 minutes in prayer. Encourage each group member to be accountable to the group for personal progress at the next meeting.

Your goal as the leader is to bring the group into a stimulating discussion that helps the members recognize their needs for personal life change. Ultimately you want them to be willing to commit to change with accountability to the group. Accountability helps us to persevere in our commitments and achieve the blessings of success.

Pray for insight as you begin to prepare for leading your group. Ask for God’s wisdom, that the Holy Spirit will be the teacher and that you will be God’s instrument to lead the group to greater understanding and a willingness to commit to becoming more like God. Prayer should be your primary source of personal preparation for leading your group.

Plan where you want to take your group in the next 60-90 days. Is your group strong in some areas and weak in others? How can you challenge the members to live more balanced Christian lives? Consider God’s five purposes for the church: Fellowship, Discipleship, Ministry, Mission and Worship, and make a plan to encourage your group members to growth and commitment in their weak areas.

Ponder your progress after each session and at the end of a series. Reflect on what went well and what didn’t. Re-evaluation is key to your growth as a leader. Consider whether your plan is being effective in moving the group to greater understanding and commitment. How are you doing with leading the discussion: is it stimulating, challenging, and meaningful? Are you able to keep the group on track? Do you need to make some changes?


“God blesses those who are peacemakers, for they will be called the children of God.” Matthew 5:9 (NLT)

Conflict resolution is one of the most important life skills, yet it is never taught in the home or at school. But Jesus teaches us that unresolved conflict blocks our fellowship with God, our prayers from being answered and our happiness.  The steps to reconciling a relationship are: 1) Make the first move; 2) Ask God for wisdom; 3) Begin with what is my fault; 4) Listen for their hurt and perspective; 5) Speak the truth tactfully; 6) Fix the problem, not the blame; 7) Focus on reconciliation, not resolution. As you work through these steps you’ll be eliminating self-centeredness, pride and fear.  The question is: Who do you need to be reconciled with today? Talk it over, then go and do it!

Open your group with a prayer. This is only a guide – select the points you want to discuss.

“So if you are presenting a sacrifice at the altar in the Temple and you suddenly remember that someone has something against you, leave your sacrifice there at the altar. Go and be reconciled to that person. Then come and offer your sacrifice to God.”  Matthew 5:23 – 24 (NLT)

1. Describe a past relationship that conflict destroyed. How has the pain from this broken relationship influenced your life? Does this make you more or less likely to make the first move toward reconciliation in the future? Why do you think God says it is more important to be reconciled than to worship?

2. The biggest barrier to dealing with conflict is the fear of being exposed or vulnerable. Fear can make you defensive (afraid to reveal your true self), distant (hide your true feelings) or demanding (try to control or have the last word). Have group member share at least one helpful step to overcome these fears to aid in conflict resolution. What current relationship(s) could benefit from overcoming these fears?

“God has restored our relationship with him through Christ, and has given us the ministry of restoring relationships. God was in Christ restoring his relationship with humanity. He didn’t hold people’s faults against them, and he has given us this message of restored relationships to tell others. We are Christ’s representatives…We beg you on behalf of Christ to become reunited with God.” 2 Corinthians 5:18-20 (GW)

3. Conflict happens. When it does do you want to be right, or do you want to stay in the relationship? What do you find the most difficult about this question? When your pride rises up, how do you keep it from causing conflict?

4. It’s always more rewarding to resolve the conflict than to dissolve the relationship. Remembering that you don’t have to agree about everything, what is most challenging about agreeing to disagree without being disagreeable?

“…we must bear the “burden” of being considerate of the doubts and fears of others…” Romans 15:2 (LB)

1. Generally in conversation are you a listener? When you focus your attention on others instead of yourself and try to see things from their perspective and their needs, how does it increase your compassion and understand for them? How can you learn to shut off the voice in your head that speaks when you really need to listen?

“…speaking the truth in a spirit of love…” Ephesians 4:15 (GNT)

2. You never get your point across when you are being cross. What are some habits you developed or need to develop in order to speak the truth in love so the truth is received by others? Since truth must be preceded by trust, how can you build deeper trust into each of your relationships?

Review any assignments or commitments made during your previous meeting.